Transformation & Personal Work 

Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg

​No Bad Parts; Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz​

​Focusing by Eugene Gendlin
The Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills Workbook by McKay, Wood & Brantley

Healers on Healing (Various Authors)

The 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden

Self-Acceptance Guided Meditation with Michael Taft (just a quality example of a type of metta meditation)

 

 

Money & Financial Wellness
Love Money, Money Loves You by Sarah McCrum
The Psychology of Money; Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness by Morgan Housel
You Need a Budget by Jesse Mecham
I Will Teach You to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi

 

 

Ambition and Achievement
More Coming Soon

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Productivity Culture
4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman

The Burnout Society by Byung-Chul Han

Leisure by Josef Pieper

 

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​​Healing and Trauma
The Widening Scope of Shame by Lansky & Morrison (note: I haven't read this yet, but it's come widely recommended to me)

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk (warning: can have a lot of triggers)

Running on Empty; Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb

 

 

The Role of Emotions

The Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills Workbook by McKay, Wood & Brantley

​Healing Through the Dark Emotions; the Wisdom of Grief, Fear and Despair by Miriam Greenspan

​The Wild Edge of Sorrow; Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Francis Weller

The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner
The Widening Scope of Shame by Lansky & Morrison (*note: I haven't read this yet, but it's come widely recommended to me)

 

 

Identity & Ancestry

The Wisdom of the Enneagram; The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso & Hudson

The Need for Roots by Simone Weil (opening chapters in particular)
 

 

Womanhood and Femininity

The Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola-Estes, PhD

The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Intimacy by Harriet Lerner

Sexual Personae by Camille Paglia (philosophy, not self-help)

 

 

Manhood and Masculinity

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover; a Journey into the Male Psyche and Its Four Essential Aspects by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette 

More Coming Soon

 

 

​Creativity

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

Art & Fear; Observations on the Perils (and Rewards) of Artmaking by Bayles & Orland

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Death
The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker

On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

How We Die by Sherwin B. Nuland

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High-Demand Groups, Abuse and Narcissism

Losing Reality; On Cults, Cultism, and the Mindset of Political and Religious Zealotry by Robert J Lifton​

Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism; a Study of Brainwashing in China by Robert J Lifton​

Bounded Choice: True Believers and Charismatic Cults by Janja Lalich​

Cult Recovery 101 Website 
The Relational System of the Traumatizing Narcissist (applies more broadly than for cults; worth a read if raised by a narcissist, though I disagree with his conclusions about outcomes for the children of TNs).​​​

 

 

 

Transformation-Relevant Quotes

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"Do not remove a fence until you know why it was put up in the first place."

-- G.K. Chesterton

 

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“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

― Viktor E. Frankl​